Am I the cause of my girls bad driving?

[Deltron]

I've been dating my g/f since we both got our licenses(10 years). Could it be that my g/f's bad driving is in part b/c I never let her drive (to afraid to)? I'm kinda paranoid so there are only a couple of people that I don't white knuckle at intersections when riding with them. The only time she drives w/me in the car is when its her turn to DD from the bar/party. When I think about it, all through high school most of the girls (in my area) rode w/their boyfriends/boy who was a friend. When they didn't ride w/their boyfriends/guy friend, it would always be a car full of girls (blind leading the blind). Am I onto something or do I just have a bad driver as a girlfriend? What's all of your thoughts?

This isn't a slam on all girl drivers, just the bad ones(my g/f)

[oly884]

This is borderline drama, but I'll let it slide, for now ;)

Frankly there's a lot of very bad drivers out there. I commute to work on an ATV (I love MT) and I get to see it every day. People think that tailgating me in an ATV, or a biker is a good idea. It's stupid, and it pisses me off that the cops in this town look the other way.

I've come to the realization that selfishness is a common trait amongst these "bad" drivers. Whether it be tailgating, speeding, or not signaling, it's their lack of concern for other people. If they are not selfish, then they are dumb, to put it simply, because if someone really does care about running me over, then they would usually avoid putting themselves in a situation where there is higher probability to do so, unless they are just that stupid.

As for your situation, if your gf's driving is that bad, take some initiative and talk to her. See if you can find a defensive driving course, or find a place to teach her yourself. Most people enjoy improving their skills at whatever it may be.

[neliconcept]

This is borderline drama, but I'll let it slide, for now ;)

Frankly there's a lot of very bad drivers out there. I commute to work on an ATV (I love MT) and I get to see it every day. People think that tailgating me in an ATV, or a biker is a good idea. It's stupid, and it pisses me off that the cops in this town look the other way.

I've come to the realization that selfishness is a common trait amongst these "bad" drivers. Whether it be tailgating, speeding, or not signaling, it's their lack of concern for other people. If they are not selfish, then they are dumb, to put it simply, because if someone really does care about running me over, then they would usually avoid putting themselves in a situation where there is higher probability to do so, unless they are just that stupid.

As for your situation, if your gf's driving is that bad, take some initiative and talk to her. See if you can find a defensive driving course, or find a place to teach her yourself. Most people enjoy improving their skills at whatever it may be.


i agree with the defensive driving course.

I did a BMW course here in Greer SC that did defensive and was fun (with the track times and skid pad races)

take her out to an abandoned parking lot after a rain or during the rain, try to get her to spin out but then pull it out.

i can help as well, tell her not to watch for a car to pull out, but to turn her head to her destination, never look only 500 feet in front, but as far as you can to find your destination.

[calrockx]

http://beconfused.com/images/2007/01/Annual-meeting-of-women-drivers.jpg

[oly884]

That made my night! :rofl:

[Seanz0rz]

quote from the movie Dragnet: "Close your eyes and think of Christmas"

[4runnerchevy]

OMG :rofl: Put her in your truck, put it in low and find a good trail. Stand back and let her gain confidence. j/k Appraoch her about a driving course. :argue:

[mastacox]

I trust my fiance to drive my 4Runners anywhere, on or off road. But, that didn't just happen; I let her drive and coached her while watching her. The fact is she's good at it because I let her drive them, not because I took her to some course or made her do anything specific.

Man or woman, you have to get a good feel for a car and know where its limits are before you can really be a good driver in it. I wanna take us to a performance driving school some time to really have some fun, she's got as much of a need for speed as I do :clap:

[EWAYota]

If I'm going somewhere with my GF, I drive, every time. There are only a handful of people I feel comfortable being the passenger with. I think part of my fear with my GF is she's 25 and just now got her license. Not that she failed for 9 years trying to get it, but when she had her permit, a kid on a bicycle hit her while driving. In turn, she felt that she hit the kid and became scared to drive. So, for now, she's very hesitant behind the wheel. I think once she gets more seat time, she'll do much better but I'll still drive if we're going somewhere together.

[Deltron]

This is borderline drama, but I'll let it slide, for now ;)
I was thinking this might be a close one for the hole.

I'm going to start riding with her (in her car). Her main problem is her attention. So if I ride with her and point out what she needs to look out for, she might get better. Now all I need is the drivers ed. brake pedal on the passenger side.

Funny story of open area driving clinics. My grandma has never had her license. When she was 40 my grandpa took her out to an old airport runway (acres of open tarmac) that had one tree that had grown through. He said go where ever you want but just don't hit that tree. Well, she hit the tree.

[surf4runner]

NO!

my ex has wrecked EVERY car/truck she has owned.
she rolled my first p/u.
she got a mazda 3 w/the settlement $$$, crashed it 4 days later :roll:

[fustercluck]

Deltron, whether it's your fault or not is immaterial. The question is, do you dare approach the subject in conversation with her, and how does one gracefully retreat from the misjudgement of having approached this subject with her in conversation?....















































Hint: you cannot win.