alright... so i wound up replacing the rear control arms... TOTALLY solved the wobble issue. had to pay 500+ for 4WP to replace the rear diff and gears and now... 2 months after they did that, guess what i find in my diff... GLITTER!!! oh wait, nevermind, those are metal shavings from the SECOND FAILING DIFFERENTIAL!!!!!!!
yes im pissed, im going by there tomorrow to see what they say, hopefully its something helpful.